AITA asking my husband’s friend if he was going to bring his wife’s ashes when he moves in with us?
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Asshole of the Week
AITA asking my husband’s friend if he was going to bring his wife’s ashes when he moves in with us?
Posted by throwaway5656065
OP’s husband’s friend, who we will call Josh (31M), lost his wife about 4 months ago, and is losing their home due to medical debts. OP and her husband are letting Josh move in while he sorts everything out.
OP, however, could not stop thinking about Josh’s wife’s ashes. Josh had his wife cremated, and had been keeping the ashes in their home. OP is not a fan of cremation, but recognized that they can’t control how others deal with the loss of their loved ones. OP wrote that “seeing ashes gives off weird vibes.”
OP finally asked Josh whether he was planning to bring his wife’s ashes with him when he stayed with them. Josh got very quiet, and after he left OP’s husband “blew up” at them, saying that they were insensitive and unwelcoming.
Our Opinion: YTA. Asking the question was, in fact, insensitive. It’s understandable to be put off by someone’s ashes sitting in your home, but this was the wrong time to express that. The poor man just lost his wife and their home, and is seeking help from people that he trusts until he can get back on his feet. It’s a temporary situation. OP can deal with the wife’s ashes existing in their home until he gets out of this situation.
Top Comment: “So, let me get this straight, because I want to make sure I understand. Your husband’s friend just lost his wife, and subsequently his house due to her medical bills. He manages to pull up enough courage to ask if he can stay with you guys for a bit til he gets back on his feet, and instead of showing ANY kind of empathy towards this man and considering his losses, your first reaction was to ask if he was bringing his deceased wife’s ashes???? Because it gives you the heebie jeebies?!?!? Your husband is right, get over yourself. Wow. YTA.” - Reddit user W_W054
Total Drama
Posted by Reddit user Trilling_
AITA for playing a prank on my sorta ex?
OP (20F) and Chuck (19M) have a long history. OP had helped Chuck get out of a toxic relationship at the start of their friendship, which OP says helped them become closer. Where at first OP only saw Chuck as a friend, Chuck would flirt with her. Eventually Chuck convinced OP that they should be together.
The two started making plans for OP to visit him at school, and OP was under the impression that they were together. OP’s edit states that they weren’t officially together, and that Chuck wanted to meet so they could officially be together. However, after a week or so Chuck became distant and admitted to OP that he had gotten together with one of his female friends. The two had a blowout argument and stopped talking.
OP’s friend suggested they get revenge, and began to prank-text Chuck. OP joined in, taking turns writing out ridiculous, incoherent messages to Chuck. OP, however, felt guilty and later apologized, saying it was meant to be a joke. Chuck yelled at OP, accusing her of causing problems between he and his ex-girlfriend, and saying she was no better.
While OP’s friend reassures her that she isn’t the asshole, OP feels otherwise.
Our Opinion: ESH. Chuck is an asshole for leading on OP and then hooking up with another girl after convincing her that they should be together. OP is an asshole for breaking up Chuck with his ex, and for prank texting him after their fight. Prank texting is incredibly annoying and immature, and not a proper way to deal with conflict.
Top Comment: “Pranks are stupid and immature, and anyone who plays them is automatically an AH. ESH.” - Reddit user PinkedOff
Notable Comment: “ESH you weren’t together. Neither of you communicated well. Apologize for the ‘prank’ and move on.” - Reddit user whiterice2323
Need A Laugh?
Posted by Reddit user antici-paaaaation
AITA for showing my boyfriend the Rocky Horror Picture Show?
OP (25F) is a big fan of the Rocky Horror Picture Show. For she and her friends’ recent movie night, they decided to put on the Rocky Horror Picture Show since one of them hadn’t seen it yet.
OP’s boyfriend, who sometimes goes along to the friend groups’ movie nights, said he had never seen the movie before either and wanted to come along. OP’s boyfriend grew up religious and is “sheltered.” He still observes some religious practice. Knowing this, OP warned him that he might get uncomfortable with the contents of the movie. He replied that he was “perfectly okay with anything he might see as obviously it’s not straight-up porn,” so he tagged along. OP was shocked, but did not push the subject.
Contrary to what he said, he was not okay with the movie. He was put off by the lingerie and sexual content. OP could tell he wasn’t having a good time, but didn’t “let his bad time ruin my good one” and thought maybe he was just shocked by the movie. On the car ride home he became angry at her for showing him the movie.
OP replied that she had warned him that it was a sexual movie and that it’s his job to do research if he is concerned about the content of a movie. She also reminded him that it was his choice to come along, and that she didn’t force him to watch it. He, however, insisted that OP should have told him how dirty it would be. He dropped her off at home and left angry.
Our Opinion: NTA. OP warned him about as much as she needed to, and she has a point - if he is concerned about the contents of a movie, he can look it up before he watches it.
Top Comment: “The movie is dirty?!?! It’s a bit suggestive at best, this lingerie clad musical isn’t exactly risqué these days. It’s his own fault he decided to be okay with it and then changed his mind or refused to do proper research if he gets offended that freaking easily. Quite frankly it sounds like he didn’t deserve to see the sexiest man alive, Tim freaking Curry, in one of his most iconic roles. Damn it Janet, you’re NTA.” - Reddit user Soft_shower