AITA for telling my daughter to get over herself?
brace yourselves, this one's a doozy
Welcome back, friends!
We hope that everyone reading this is happy, safe, and ready for some more AITA entertainment!
Click here to check out this week’s episode, where Danny and Sara cover … AITA for making my daughter move her pet rabbit outside due to my stepson's allergies?, AITA for having kids at my wedding?, and AITA if I don’t go on vacation with my boyfriend and his whole family?
Be sure to send in Asshole in the Wild submissions to be featured in an upcoming newsletter!
Enjoy!
Shout-out to our new Patreon supporters: Jaycee, Gabby, Jessica, Kathryn, Alison, Patty, Matt, Sarah, Janie, Jess, and Rayne!
This Week’s Contents:
Asshole of the Week
Asshole in the Wild
Validation Post of the Week
Need a Laugh?
Asshole of the Week
Posted by Reddit user Acrobatic-Flan-6059
AITA for telling my daughter to get over herself?
OP (50F) has a daughter (26F) who is deeply immersed in the world of academia. The daughter is the first person in the family who has attended college, and is now a graduate student working towards a PhD. The daughter has gone on several research trips and conventions in cool places—Hawaii, Seattle, DC—and is considering applying for a grant to go to Germany. The trip would be two weeks, during which she would be focusing on advancing her career by teaching, researching, and networking. OP, who is half German herself, was very excited to hear that her daughter would be going to Germany and suggested she come along to make it a “girls’ trip.” OP’s daughter clarified that the trip wouldn’t be a vacation, as it would be career- and school-focused, and she wouldn’t have much time for anything else. OP is frustrated that her daughter hasn’t allowed her and her husband to come on any of her trips, and insulted that her daughter would rather spend her time networking with other academics (OP wrote “academics” in quotation marks). OP ended up telling her daughter: “You need to get over yourself and quick, because all of these “academics” aren’t going to be the only people you meet and not everyone loves you unconditionally to put up with such annoying and elitist talk.”
Our Opinion: YTA. OP’s daughter is being given lots of wonderful opportunities that will advance her career and feed her passions, which just happen to depend on her education and networking. Instead of being happy for her, OP is berating her for leaving her out of her trips. OP is probably insecure about her own career and education in comparison to her daughter’s.
Top Comment: “YTA. YOUR DAUGHTER IS NOT GOING ON VACATION. Get that through your head. Take your own advice and get over it. You’re not entitled to go on these trips.” - Reddit user NoUnicornPoo4You
Asshole in the Wild
In my writing class, we were workshopping my first draft of the first chapter of my novel. I was excited to hear what my classmates had to say. The general consensus of the class was that my chapter was good, with a few structural and grammatical issues, and a lot of my classmates found it very relatable because it explores mental health issues such as anxiety. One guy in my class didn’t like it much at all. He’s more of a sci-fi/fantasy writer and I’m more of a realistic fiction/romance writer, so I genuinely think he just hated reading it, and he continuously pointed out how irrational the character’s anxiety was, even after a lot of people in the class had said it was relatable for them. I don’t think he’s an asshole for not liking my writing. Not everyone is going to. But I do think he’s an asshole for more or less saying that anxiety is irrational in front of a class where a lot of people struggle with it. - Jenna
Validation Post of the Week
Posted by Reddit user businessbittch
AITA for replying to a coworkers inappropriate texts by work email, and attaching them?
OP (F) wrote that her coworker (M) sent her inappropriate texts around 3am over St. Patrick’s Day weekend. OP stated that she is a lesbian, but is not out at work, and that the coworker is married. In the texts, he told her that she should “come over and ‘have some fun,’” that he had been into her for a while now and “knew she felt the same.” He also sent pictures in which he was naked, but thankfully did not go lower than his hips. OP saw the texts and decided to deal with them on Monday, categorizing the situation as a “workday problem.” When Monday came around, OP sent the coworker a direct and professional-sounding email asking him not to use her phone number and to only contact her about work-related matters through her work email. She attached the pictures he had sent her in the email. The coworker became angry that OP had attached the inappropriate pictures in a work email.
Our Opinion: NTA. This man has crossed a line and OP dealt with it in a very professional manner. It is perfectly acceptable to set boundaries, especially when the people involved are coworkers and will be expected to continue working together. While the coworker may get in trouble for the pictures if his work email is inspected, he should not have sent them to OP in the first place. It’s amazing that OP hasn’t gotten him fired yet.
Top Comment: “Go to HR immediately. NTA.” - Reddit user MurielFinster
Need a Laugh?
Posted by Reddit user aitaaitaaaiitta
OP’s friend set her up on a blind date. The date took place at a bar that OP described as “a little fancy but also loud enough for us to have to raise our voice and speak.” OP admits to having a loud laugh, but doesn’t try to suppress it. The date shushed her and was clearly embarrassed, not wanting to attract unwanted attention. He asked her not to laugh so loudly and if her laugh was fake, which it was not. The next time OP laughed, her date shushed her even more loudly. He said that she laughed too much and that he didn’t find it attractive, then asked why she doesn’t cover her mouth or stifle it. After this, OP laughed even harder and louder at everything she could until he decided to leave.
Our Opinion: NTA but also YTA in a good way. Pop off, queen! The date was incredibly rude to her and wanted her to change who she was just so he wasn’t embarrassed. This is an incredible response to an absolute asshole.
Top Comment: “NTA, but this is a case when I think we need a YGA option: You Glorious Asshole.” - Reddit user SublightMonster